Support for `_pos` metadata column

[vustef]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

The spec defines metadata columns, one of which is the _pos column. This column seems instrumental for write operations positional deletes in future, as well as for having some ways for users to identify rows (combination of filepath + position). There's also a related DataFusion issue: apache/datafusion#13261.

Describe the solution you'd like

The solution should allow building a TableScan with option to return metadata columns (in this case _pos). When that happens, the library should return batches that include this extra column. The column should preserve gaps in case of filter pushdown (and in case of merge-on-read).

Willingness to contribute

I can contribute to this feature independently

[vustef]

Corresponding arrow-rs issue, likely a dependency: apache/arrow-rs#7299

[vustef]

Drafted a PR prototyping a solution: #1791

Because the solution depends on a (not yet merged) change in arrow-rs (see discussion here and this PR), we also have to upgrade arrow-rs to 0.57.x (at least, depends what the version will be when we merge a change).

Therefore, a bunch of changes are because of upgrade to the new arrow-rs version. Note that I only upgraded iceberg crate, and not datafusion crate, which also needs an upgrade.

If anyone is interested in changes relevant to this, see mostly diff in reader.rs, and scan/mod.rs.