Update grpc, maintain health check interface; requries go update

[zalegrala]

What this PR does:

Here we update the grpc version, which requires two changes. First a Go update to 1.23 and second an interface update to include List() method. The implementation simply wraps the Check method.

I invented a key here, which seemed to suit the change, but perhaps "default" could be as well. I also notice that we have an individual check for all services wrapped in a closure, but perhaps a future change might modify the List method to include the status of each of the manager's services.

Which issue(s) this PR fixes:

Dependabot PRs updating dependencies which include newer grpc. For an example: grafana/tempo#5097

Fixes #

Checklist

• Tests updated
• CHANGELOG.md updated - the order of entries should be [CHANGE], [FEATURE], [ENHANCEMENT], [BUGFIX]

[aknuds1]

Any idea why tests fail?

[zalegrala]

No I'm a little confused why the tests are failing. They timeout locally, but I don't PR this repo often enough to know what's normal. I'll dig around some today.

[zalegrala]

Note that if I run the test individually which are failing in this PR, they pass locally.

❯ go test -race -cover ./crypto/tls/test/ -count=1 -run=".*"
ok  	github.com/grafana/dskit/crypto/tls/test	2.878s	coverage: 76.7% of statements

[aknuds1]

It's not flakiness is it @zalegrala?

[zalegrala]

Hmm, possibly yes. I do get a failure if I run with -count=100 -failfast.

go test -race -cover ./crypto/tls/test/ -count=100 -failfast -run=".*"

[aknuds1]

I guess failing tests need some un-flaking then :)

[zalegrala]

At least one of the failures looks like localhost meaning different TCP networks being resolved between the server and client. I'm taking a look at what we can do here and trying to not break existing tests in the process.

[zalegrala]

I've raised #691. Let's see what happens in CI over there.