gha/restructure llvmdev ci

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This PR introduces several key fixes to the llvmdev GHA build process.

• adds user input options - 'all' for platforms and recipe. allows running all llvmdev workflows using one click/workflow dispatch. This also helps input only one workflow id on downstream llvmlite workflows.
• builds llvmdev_for_wheel inside manylinux containers for linux-64 and linux-arm64 to ensure wheel compatibility.
• pins the osx-64 compiler to version 14 to avoid conda selecting 17.x compilers.
• fixes linux-arm64 builds by pinning py-lief to a version older than 0.16.

[esc]

I think the osx-64 issue that needed a compiler pin has been resolved, can you remove those?

[esc]

Can we use linux-aarch64 instead of linux-arm64 since the first is the name that conda uses?

[swap357]

I think the osx-64 issue that needed a compiler pin has been resolved, can you remove those?

okay, will update.

Can we use linux-aarch64 instead of linux-arm64 since the first is the name that conda uses?

used -arm64 as its what gha uses but can change this. this will need changing downstream llvmlite workflow, will change there.

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keeping pin to use v14 compiler toolchain on both osx-64 and osx-arm64 for llvmdev and llvmdev-for-wheel recipes, since it otherwise gets 17.x that causes errors.